A child's self-reliance is trained? American parents view their children self-reliance to start small, from the little things of life. The most typical children self-reliance is not the case everywhere dependent on their parents in their daily lives, even if it is able to do but also parents do it.
There are a lot of stories about how American parents want their kids to learn how to wear clothes, even wearing the wrong wearing anti adults also will not help the child re-dress, but let the children their own corrections. There is a very interesting story, and one day a mother to see children wearing the shoes backwards, and very pleased. The mother did not immediately told the boy to change over the shoes to wear, but to observe the children's behavior. In fact, this child is deliberately shoes Instead, you want to try the shoes, why not have to be divided into left and right foot. Results wearing anti shoes walking around for a while, I found walking awkward and uncomfortable feet. Later, the child told his mother that the shoes can not wear anti wear anti-foot hurts, walking uncomfortable. This is a 4-year-old children from wearing shoes in self-learned things, little things like the kind of life can be described as commonplace.
U.S. First Lady Mitchell Family Code developed two daughters, one of which is to clean up his room. Child to clean up his room really so important? All the studies have shown that, to his room and made a step confused child and will not cause the child's character, this is just a life habit. But why is it that the majority of American parents would require children themselves to clean up the room, own laundry? Parents feel these little things of life to cultivate children's self-help.
Let's look at what a positive impact on some of the little things in life will have the child's growth. The children independence first step often started from dinner, a small baby when parents fed sometimes have to cajole, persuade or even beg. Baby to eat to be carried out even in pitch darkness, clothes stained with cooked rice, floor and soup and water, a lot of parents in order to save a mouth to feed their children. Research shows, when the child can feed himself, the parents were taken to feeding method, detrimental to the development of the child's hand function, and to eat children, and is the most primitive first step to enhance the learning process.
Next, look, independence or independent of the kids have their own decision-making power from the requirements began. For example, parents often decisions for a child to wear what style, what color clothes according to their own preferences, but the young minds of the children also have their own aesthetic, they will have their own preferences. Naughty boy I am afraid that most do not like to wear new clothes all day crawling out of the trench, drill barbed wire, the new clothes that inconvenient, and dirty, pierced had to be punished. The little girl liked the style trendy colors stunning clothes, beauty is also reflected on the dressing.
If the parents want the kids to be able to develop a good habit of self-reliance, from children dress start. The first is to let the children very hour to learn how to dress, and then encourage them to wear their favorite clothes. Although sometimes children wear clothes adults watching is not pleasing to the eye, it does not matter. If parents deny children dress choice while in the child will gradually lose its personality. Of course, children dress is to have some truth, the big winter sky snow three-point girl wearing a bikini bathing suit to take to the streets a little justified.
In everyday life, the parents of more than support the children's interest, which is training the children a good way to self-reliance. In a lot of things, children can not be self-sustaining sometimes depends on the parents liked and did not like, and parents interested or not interested. If parents want to support their children's independence, they should support their individual interests. If the child's interest in the music, the parents do not have to say, you have to learn to play the piano, learn the piano you can be famous, parents should encourage their children to learn his favorite instrument, which can be a musical instrument.
Not to immediately correct the errors of the child, which is to cultivate children a way to self-reliance. Former U.S. first lady Laura Bush experience in the education of their children had not yet reached the drinking age daughter drink outside the home, I will not criticize the things they drink, she said. Because it can only be counterproductive.
In fact, when the child does something wrong, my heart there will be a sense of guilt, and to give them a little time to think for themselves, which will gradually develop independent thinking and problem-solving abilities. We have had a similar experience, when you do one thing, if the parents around for a while say this do not, one would say that there do not, you will feel bored, even know that parents mean well parents will feel too nagging. This is a psychological reaction, and can even develop into a child's reverse psychology. Experts believe that, to correct the error of their children, in a peaceful environment, communication may achieve better results. On the contrary, when children make mistakes, parents immediately heavily punished and even furious, most of the results based on both sides scrambled frame ended, and the real solution to the problem is both sides really calm.
Americans saying goes, the child is called if you would like to make their own decisions, you must accept the consequences, whether good or bad consequences. This is the American parents to cultivate children's self-most commonly spoken sentence. We know, maturity is a process, and in the maturation process, children must have the right to choose and the right to decide on things, even mature people can make mistakes, will make a premature decision. Therefore, parents get their kids in the process learned the consequences of one thing to make a choice, parents also need to let the children learned that they must bear the consequences of the decision made.
The parents of the children should avoid too much control, and parents to help their children form a creative thinking and guide them to make good decisions can play a greater role, but should not play to control all the roles. To give a child some space to think for themselves, under the guidance of their parents, so that they do more self-experience.
Parents should minimize material and money means to encourage some of the good behavior of the children, parents show off on the children of substance over meet and substance actually produces a negative role. The best reward of parents on their children should be able to really play the role of encouraging children, as a kind of spiritual power and the joy of success.
Parents, if any, may wish to sit down and chatted with the children, listen to what they need. Often, parents assume that what the kids need. When parents truly understand their children think and think and required, you can give children more options to do things that they are eager to do.
The education of their children to a self-critical awareness of the problem, parents should keep in mind here, so that the child's independence ultimate goal is for our children and not to their parents. From the child and parents should encourage their children the ability to choose their own lives, parents should encourage children to have their own views of things.
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